“I have learned, that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”
-Henry David Thoreau
Two weeks ago I wrote a post about ‘how to know when to quit your job’. The response was pretty big. A few of you even decided it was time to pull the rip cord and stop doing mind numbing work. Hat’s off! It’s not an easy step.
Then last week’s Ask the Reader post – “What fear is keeping you from doing work you love?”, went off the charts. Out of the 320+ responses many of them pointed to confusions of passion and purpose. Whether you’re leaving a job or going through a massive life transition (or think you will in the future), this article’s for you. (And so is the Live Off Your Passion career course I recently created – more on that at the end).
Oh and in your honor, I just put together some very powerful free tools. You can access them below. I think they’ll help!
Now let’s dig in…
Life transitions are ridiculously fragile times.
Especially when they involve being fired or quitting a job you’ve had for years. Emotions often go crazy. Feelings of fear, uncertainty and panic start to flood. We’ve all been there.
But it also happens to be the most powerful opportunity many of us are given when it comes to doing work we love – if used properly.
The problem is that we tend to make awful decisions when grounded in fear. Long-term thinking flies out the window and we immediately start thinking survival – “What can I do right this second to solve this seemingly terrible problem?” But in sprinting for an immediate solution, we can completely miss the chance of a lifetime.
We need to change that.
It’s time to talk about the smart thing to do the moment you decide it’s time to go.
Coincidentally the morning I published the post about how to know when it’s time to quit, I happened to have breakfast with a close friend and loyal reader. He had just gotten laid off from a job he was very proud of and he worked his ass off to get.
We spent the next hour talking next steps – the advice I gave him is not typical and very contrary to human nature.
You deserve the same.
After countless experiences with myself and those close to me, I’ve realized there is only one thing worth doing the moment you quit, get fired or make any big transition. It’s something I tell every one of the now hundreds of folks who have faced this challenge and come to me for help. Ready for it?
The one thing everyone must do the moment they get fired or quit is…
Don’t do a damn thing. Nothing at all. Got that?
For at least the first three weeks (and ideally a few months) DO NOT do any of the following:
- Find any job you can get your hands on
- Start interviewing like crazy
- Take the first offer that comes to you
- Panic and run around in circles
The worst thing you can do, and what almost everyone does, is scramble to immediately find something else.
Avoid the temptation. All this is going to do is put you in the same place you were before you left. That is not what I call progress.
First off, deal with the fear by realizing a couple things:
- It’s never as bad as you think. You’re not going to starve and go homeless. And there’s likely something a lot more interesting in store.
- You have more options than you realize. If you got fired, then you’re likely getting severance or unemployement. Ok great, you’re not going to die of hunger. If you quit or otherwise chose your transition, remember you saw this coming. So calm down. Take a breath or two.
Now that you’ve stopped freaking out, realize that you have the rare opportunity to be unhurried and intentional about what you do next.
You have a clear and open widow to actually understand what you’re here to do. To slow down, think, reflect and take stock of what you’ve learned and do something meaningful with it.
This opportunity is better than gold. The problem is most people piss it away.
Respect it. Then do something with it.
Here are a few ideas…
7 Ways to Do Nothing (and have a chance at finding your purpose in the process):
1. Travel. Take off and get as far out of town as possible. I still trace my year and a half in Sevilla, Spain as the most defining experience in how I see the world. Without experiencing an entirely new way of doing things, I would surely still be listening to what everyone else says and Live Your Legend definitely would not exist.
Go alone or grab someone close and just explore. The more foreign the better. Get out for as long as you can. At least a few weeks but ideally a few months or even a year. You’d be surprised how much cheaper many places are around the world than your hometown and regular fixed cost-filled routine.
2. Check out a meditation retreat. Have you ever felt what it’s like to sit and do nothing for a few hours, a day, or a week or more on end? Now that life has finally slowed down, take some time to embrace it.
Check out spots around your area or maybe find one out in a place like Dharamsala or Bhutan and tie it into your travels. If you want to get really into doing nothing, pick a silent retreat. It’s time to get in touch with parts of our minds and bodies that have long gone neglected.
3. Write. Buy a journal or open up a blank doc on your computer and begin to write what comes to mind. Make it a daily routine. Better yet do it on your meditation/travel adventure. You’re welcome to use a blog or forum if you’re used to it.
Start in the morning when your mind is clear and take notes throughout the day as things come to mind. Maybe you’ll come back to what you wrote. Maybe you won’t. What matters is you start to reflect. The key is to constantly get your ideas out of your head. Only then will you be able to make real sense of them.
4. Do a cleanse or take on a physical challenge. Do something you haven’t done but have always wondered about. Maybe a Master Cleanse, a juice fast, eating vegan and raw for a few weeks or attempting your first urbanathlon or half or full marathon. Push yourself. See how you feel. Write down some thoughts as the experience unfolds.
5. Get inspired. Surround yourself with people you admire or go off all alone with your favorite music or motivating movies. Dust off Rocky I or Vision Quest if the underdog story is what fires you up. Listen to one of Tony Robbins’ CD programs such as Get The Edge or attend one of his seminars like Unleash the Power Within. Pick anything that’s been on your list or you know will get you inspired. Take note of where your mind takes you.
6. Dream. When was the last time you sat down and dreamed huge, without someone telling you were crazy? Go out in nature, maybe lie out on your back and stare at the clouds. Think of the craziest biggest (and smallest) dreams you’ve ever imagined.
What did you use to imagine before the world told you it wasn’t possible? Go back to your days as a five-year-old if you must. Write everything down. No filtering. Notice how it feels.
7. Learn about yourself. All these steps are designed to help you better understand who you are – to help you find the things you may have never realized you were looking for. Something that most people never make the time to do. That’s not going to be you. Learn with no expectation and no agenda. Only under those conditions is where one’s purpose can emerge.
You might even want to pick up a copy of my new self study eCourse, Live Off Your Passion. Most of the above steps and a ton more are covered in some deep detail. It’s not a bad place to start. But more important than anything is that you start learning, any way you can.
“Great minds have purposes, others have wishes.”
- Washington Irving
Realize you have the biggest opportunity in the world.
Losing your job is not a disaster. Quitting is not the end of everything certain in life. There is a better path for you. Now you get to find it. Take it seriously and it just might change your life.
Or you could just roll right into whatever comes your way next. That’d be the easy way. But I think you know better by now.
And beware, many of you will read this and perhaps feel inspired for the moment, but when the sh*t hits the fan you’re gong to be tempted to scramble in a furry. This is normal. Recognize it, but don’t give it control. It is not as bad as you think. Find a reason for it. Let it serve you and be inspired to do something with it.
Be intentional. The sleepwalking has gone on long enough.
When I left my soul-crushing job seven years ago, I went straight to the ATM to get some money out for dinner that night. That’s when it really hit me – that was the biggest my bank account would be in a long time. It was at that moment where I wish I had the above advice.
After some painful worst-case thinking, I accepted my situation (which I had created). I embraced it. Then I promised myself I wouldn’t do a thing for 3 months – no matter what. All I did was read, learned and explored.
What resulted could not have been better scripted.
I want the same for you.
After our breakfast, the next stop for my buddy was a four-day mountain biking retreat. I wonder what he’ll realize while he’s out there… It’s impossible to know. But doing nothing is the only way to find out.
I give you this advice because there’s nothing I care more about than helping people take the steps to live a life and create a career of meaning. Often this means acting against human nature and against what the majority tell you.
Get used to it. Where we’re going, there’s no room for average.
So, are you ready to do nothing?
Remember to check out our free tools to help out:
And if you want some very in-depth guidance…
Check out Live Off Your Passion – a resource to find and do work you love
As mentioned above, I recently released a powerful award-winning career change course called Live Off Your Passion: An Unconventional Guide to Finding Passion and Building a Career around Work You Love. I’ve spent the last few years doing countless case studies and interviews in developing the course. It’s turned out to be pretty useful tool for those of you at the ‘do nothing’ purpose finding stage.
Of course only consider buying it if you truly plan to do the work involved. For those of you ready for some self-discovering, this may be a good place to start.
It’s seriously time to start doing what matters. When is now the best time?
Check out all the details of the course here.
I also created a pretty fun short video trailer to inspire you a bit to find work that lights you on fire (it was a blast to make!). Check out the trailer below…