A Beginner’s Guide to Anti-Networking: 13 Tools & Articles for Building Real Relationships

A Beginner’s Guide to Anti-Networking: 13 Tools & Articles for Building Real Relationships

People Change Everything.

I spend a tremendous amount of time thinking about relationships. I believe there is no more powerful tool for career change, doing work you love or making an impact on the world than the people you surround yourself with.

I call it brainwashing the impossible – the fastest way to do the things you don’t think can be done is to hang around people already doing them.

Without the right supportive and inspiring friends, peers and mentors, even the best career tools on the planet are completely useless.

So over the past couple years at Live Your Legend I’ve made a conscious effort to make sure this is not just a website about the nuts and bolts of discovering passions, finding certain jobs or even starting a business. Sure, we cover all that.

But on a much more fundamental level, Live Your Legend focuses on surrounding yourself with the people who make it possible.

That community is everything.

And I’m not talking about “networking”. That word makes me cringe. It’s not about jamming a business card in someone’s face in some stuffy conference room. Not even close.

It’s about building genuine connections and friendships with people who inspire you – with the people you want to change the world with.

Over the years we’ve created a ton of articles and resources dedicated to building these genuine connections. So today I wanted to put them all in one place.

And if you don’t want to do it alone…

I warn you – there’s a lot of info below. And in the spirit of community, I know some of you might not want to go through it all on your own. If you want company, you might want to have a look at How to Connect with Anyone, our private course and community solely dedicated to surrounding yourself with the people who refuse to let you fail. We even hand-place every member into their own mastermind team of 3-5 people based on common goals, interests and geographic location, so you can start making these connections from day one.

We only open the community to a small number of new members every six months so that we can keep it intimate. If you’re interested in transforming your surroundings with us, you can join our Insider’s list for priority access here.

Now enjoy the goods below…

The Beginner’s Guide to Anti-Networking (or how to build real relationships)

Creating Your Foundation:

1. The 31 Habits of the World’s Best Connectors

2. Vulnerability 101: How to Build Rapport with Absolutely Anyone

3. Making Magic: How to Create Immediate Trust with Virtually Anyone (+ my humiliating breakdancing video)

4. The 2 Laws of Befriending Absolutely Anyone (even Warren Buffett). This includes a high-resolution poster download of our Connect With Anyone Creed, plus a free video on “Reframing Friendship” from one of the modules in How to Connect with Anyone.

5. Firing Toxic Friends & What To Do If Your Community Won’t Support Your ‘Crazy’ Ideas. Plus some scientific proof that a supportive community prevents disease!

Building Genuine Connections with Successful People:

6. The Science of Creating the Perfect Mentor: An 8-Step Process

7. How to Get Influencers to Say Yes to Your Ideas (The 16 Laws You’re Probably Not Following)

8. 5 Ways to Use the Internet to Build Real Connections with Impossible to Reach People

9. From Tim Ferriss & Warren Buffett to Tony Robbins & Seth Godin: How to Create World-Class Relationships

10. How to Get Invited to Speak at TEDx (and get 40,147 views in 5 days). The whole process in action!

 A Few Product-Quality Videos & Downloads:

11. Tapping Brilliance: The Ultimate Mastermind Workbook is Live! (Download your totally free 56-pg guide)

12. Live Event Field Kit: A LYL Event In Every City! The Free Step-by-Step Guide to Transforming Your Surroundings (PDF download)

13. Video Presentation: Build An In-Person Community of Inspiring Passionate Supporters & Become The Host!

We Are Our Surroundings

For better or worse, the people around us transform who we are. We can either choose to own our surroundings or we can let our surroundings own us.

The nice thing is that we get to decide. No one can tell us who we can and can’t hang around.

Be intentional about the people you spend time with. And become the person who inspires those around you. Start by taking 20 seconds to forward this list to one person you know needs the support.

It might make all the difference.

Glad we’re in the same corner,


P.S.  If you want more help with your surroundings, be sure to check out How to Connect with Anyone. We’re here to help however we can.


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