Emotions & Happiness

Top 10 Blogs to Inspire Action

"You can't wait for inspiration. You have to go after it with a club."

-Jack London

Written by: Scott Dinsmore

Average Reading Time: 5 minutes

As we go through life, it's easy to get caught up in the status quo. You start to believe that average is acceptable and that since others are settling, then it's ok to do the same. As soon as you notice this start to happen, something must be done to snap out of it! I've found a few blogs that do this especially well. They guide me to live a more purposeful life while encouraging me to do it on my terms. There is no substitute for people who have done it. Below are my top 10 blogs both as personal development resources and thought changers. They make us question our actions. Are they really most inline with who we are? If I look back on my life in 50 years will I be proud of how I'm directing my energy and unique strengths? These blogs will make you think. A lot of these people are hardly 30 years old and some are barely 20. They're living proof that it's possible to do what you love and to share it with others.

Accepting Others

"Acceptance is such an important commodity, some have called it the first law of personal growth."

-Peter McWilliams

Written by: Scott Dinsmore

Average Reading Time: 3.5 minutes

When was the last time your were frustrated by someone around you? Maybe they're always late, can't seem to follow through, missed another deadline, or perhaps you just don't see eye to eye. It doesn't make a difference what it is. The possibilities are endless and we all have a long list. By nature we expect life to just be the way we want it to be. When it's not, we don't like it. Many of us choose to carry this frustration around day to day. We quickly forget that it is indeed a choice to feel this way.

Embrace Your Freedom

Written by: Scott Dinsmore

Average Reading Time: 1.5 minutes

"The last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way." -Dr. Viktor E Frankl
How often have you stopped to think about how free you are? In the U.S., today is the day we've decided to celebrate our freedom. But with all the BBQ, beer, fireworks and fun, it's all too easy to forget the importance of such a word. While today may be a subtle reminder for some of us, we must embrace and cherish our freedom every day. It's all around us. And it's so easy to take for granted. Today and everyday forward, I encourage you to embrace what we have at our fingertips. Make the below a part of your everyday life and allow yourself to live freely.

How to Cure an Emotional Hangover

Written by: Scott Dinsmore Have you ever felt on top of the world one minute and moments later felt like you'd fallen off an emotional cliff? Why is it that some of our favorite and most exciting experiences with others can often lead to us feeling drained or craving attention? Often the answer is that you're hung over...emotionally that is. Let me explain.

Symptoms of an Emotional Hangover

You've just had an amazing set of experiences and you suddenly:

  • Feel empty and alone
  • Are craving attention
  • Feel anxious, hurried and stressed
  • Lose your motivation to be healthy (mentally and physically)
  • Experience a feeing of excitement quickly replaced by feeling lost

Written by: Scott Dinsmore

Average Reading Time: 3.5 minutes

"Life is just a quick succession of busy nothings." -Jane Austen

Do you remember the last time you asked someone how work was? How about life in general? What was their response? What did you say the last time you were asked those questions? I bet I know. It's the same thing almost everyone I talk to says, and something I've been keeping track of the past few weeks. The unanimous answer: "busy" The response is almost programmed. No need to even think. And then they look at me proudly, as if I should be impressed. Well, I can't say that I am. I must admit that "busy" has been my response for years. But how did we all of a sudden find ourselves in a society where busy was the most acceptable way to be spending our time?

Average Reading Time: 9 minutes

Have you ever come across someone who knew exactly what they want out of life? Anything they say, they mean, and will quickly act on. They seem confident, eager, excited and downright passionate. You can just feel the energy. What impression did that put upon you? Chances are you were experiencing the power of congruency. Tony Robbins first brought this term to my attention in his Unleash the Power Within 4-day seminar as well as most of his CD's, talks and books. Tony is about as congruent as they come. But what does that mean? This was not the same math term I learned in high school and to be honest, it's a way of life that is difficult to define. The best way is to experience it. But let me give it a try. The general definition of congruence is: identical in form; in agreement or harmony. Now apply this to a life approach. Someone who lives with congruency acts in direct accordance with their dreams, desires, beliefs, values, mission and goals. They do not let the thoughts of others affect their approach to the world. They take their own unique path paved by their understanding of themselves.

Written by: Scott Dinsmore

Average Reading Time: 7.5 minutes

What do you think a pickup artist could teach a salesman? I bet you'd be surprised. I know I was. Can you think of a more crucial and technical sale than convincing a man or woman to go out with you, spend their time and maybe even locking lips? That sale can take a lifetime to master. A couple years ago when starting my investment business, a respected mentor and salesman recommended only one book: The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists. I laughed until I realized he was serious. Then I bought the book. He promised the techniques for picking up women were just as relevant for business relationships (well most of them at least...). A little common sense and discretion is required. It turns out that these days the author, Neil Strauss, does one-day workshops on social dynamics and rapport building for the likes of premier global management consulting companies and he charges top dollar. These guys are the cream of the crop when it comes to consulting and we can be pretty sure he isn't teaching them how to get a date. Understanding how to interact in social situations is crucial and this was a pretty entertaining (and very real) way to learn a few things.

Written by: Scott Dinsmore

Average Reading Time: 5 minutes

What's more likely to get you to buy something: a slick sales pitch or a friendly referral? It's no surprise that we'd all prefer to do business with someone we like and trust. And who couldn't use a reminder? Well a group of 150 entrepreneurs and I had the chance to make this a life motto when we heard Jim Cathcart speak at a Catalyst For Thought event in Santa Barbara last week. What followed was an hour-long energizing, motivating, belly laughing, masters education on how to live life. Jim's written 14 books on relationship selling and speaks, coaches and inspires behavior across the world. Yet we had him all to ourselves. He learned early in life that business should be an act of friendship and has guided his life accordingly. If that's where you start, there's no limit to where you'll end.

The80/20 Principle and Richard Koch Interview

Written by: Scott Dinsmore

Average Reading Time: 4.5 minutes

Ask Richard Koch and he'll tell you that life efficiency can be summed up in a sentence: 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort. My guess is we've all heard it before (especially if you read my resent post summarizing his book). But what might surprise many of you is that he sums up life happiness and fulfillment in just the same way. I had to learn more. After virtually following him between his homes in South Africa, Portugal and Sevilla, I learned two things. 1. He's not the easiest to track down and 2. He lives what he writes, to the T. He IS the 80/20 Principle. He of course wouldn't give a phone interview, only email--it was an 80/20 thing...