
08 Apr What to Do When the Next Step Feels Impossible
I hear this a lot…
“I’d start if I only knew what to do next.”
It comes up too often, in fact.
Sometimes it feels like progress is impossible.
Like every distraction was designed for me.
As if the only thing in the world you can’t think of is what your next step should be – and how to possibly get yourself to take it.
When you’re first starting out, this can feel like a massive weight – heavy and debilitating. It can put you well beyond overwhelm, at times approaching panic.
You can’t possibly see how you’d get from here to there.
You’re staring up a 15,000 foot mountain and you only just laced up your boots.
You’re trying to make that first dollar in the business you hope will one day replace the six-figure income you slaved a decade or more to earn. An idea you think just might provide for your family and keep them safe, happy, loved and supported – one day…
Maybe you’re stuck on the first few sentences of the book you keep telling your publisher is almost done.
Or you’re writing line one of the launch post for the blog you’ve been planning to start for years.
Or you’re finally saying “I quit!” to the job you know isn’t you.
Here’s the reality: This. Is. Normal.
Stop fearing you’re alone in these massive challenges. Because you’re not. Not even close.
So then why does everyone make it seem so easy? Instead of openly sharing the struggles and seeking guidance from others, people put on an act and puff their chests out like they have it all figured out.
Except they don’t.
I’m beginning to think no one does. And that’s okay. That’s part of the party.
There’s a reason why study after study has shown that the majority of people feel noticeably less happy after checking Facebook. Because it makes you feel everyone else’s life is so damn perfect. The problem is that’s completely inaccurate. Not even close. I don’t care how glamorous the status updates or blog posts that fill your inbox seem (except hopefully this one). 😉
The emotional swings of pursing a life you care about – and doing work that actually matters – are intense. There’s no getting around it, whether it’s building a business, changing careers or simply being true to who you know you are. It’s going to be rough.
And as it turns out, this isn’t just for beginners. We all feel it.
I feel it off and on all the time, and occasionally I even feel a little crazy (just ask my wife…).
I often feel paralyzed when I think of what to build next.
I get lost in the details, in the planning, in the decisions.
I’m weighed down by the pressure of keeping up with what I’ve built. In managing a business I never really expected to have to manage.
Sometimes I get scared that it’s all going to disappear. Paranoid that a small hiccup here and there is an indication that things are starting to unravel.
I wonder how I can possibly get from today to my vision for the next 10 or 30+ years. And all this creates stress. It can make me anxious. I’ll feel it in the top of my gut or in my jaw, and it can be frustrating as hell.
But we so easily forget…
That the reality we’re living in now is probably not one we could have dreamed up only a few years ago.
We forget to appreciate the progress. We get accustomed to it without knowing. Expectations adapt. And the swings continue.
Today’s post is as much for me as it is for you – they always are. Because I know how many of you feel this way. We can get lost in ideas and frozen from action.
I believe we all feel this way from time to time. I’ve actually experienced it off and on for the past month or two, despite the outward progress LYL has made, and how easy, natural and matter-of-fact onlookers like to assume it all is.
But the difference between the Dreamers and the Makers is taking action in spite of the gremlins.
Realize that that feeling – that intensity – is an indication that you’re in pursuit of something that actually matters to you. I can’t imagine a feeling more worth leaning into. You just have to recognize it enough to appreciate it.
So, if your next step feels impossible, here are three ideas that always help me.
1. Reflect. Give yourself credit for the progress you’ve made. Take a good look at what you’ve already created (we’ve all built something) or in the fact that your mindset is developed enough to recognize that you want to make some sort of a difference. Appreciate the fact that you’re awake to what’s possible! Without that step, nothing can happen.
This is something Chelsea and I did over my birthday dinner last week, and I make sure I do it every Monday before I plan the week. I even included it on my mastermind call this morning. When we soak in gratitude and pride, we start to see options we didn’t think existed. It’s much harder for fear to take over. We all have something to celebrate.
2. Spend time with the right people. Stop trying to do things alone. Find people who have already done it, who are doing it, who want to do it – anyone you can relate to. It’s the last thing you’ll want to do when you’re feeling lost, but that’s when they’re needed most. They’ll help you see what’s next. I spent a few hours last weekend with my friend Corbett, whom I hadn’t seen for months since he lives the tough life in Mexico during the first three months of the year. 😉 I left buzzing with possibility just from trading ideas about what we’re building.
This is why we’ve invested hundreds of hours in creating our free Live Your Legend LOCAL communities – and we now have over 140 meetups happening all over the world! Find yours here. I’m going to the one in San Francisco tonight – come join us if you can.
3. Do one thing. The key to action is simple. DO SOMETHING. Anything. It doesn’t have to be the perfect next step. If it’s a next step of some sort, that’s what makes it perfect. You probably have a list of actions you’d like to take. If not, then make one. Then pick anything on it to do. Start with the easiest thing. Then the next. And the next.
Launching your product or finding your dream career is freakin’ scary. But putting your first ideas onto a page or finding one new exciting job idea is simple. It’s harmless. But that’s what builds momentum.
And Momentum Is Everything
That’s how some unknown talent ends up changing the damn world.
And that’s why the above image is my favorite card to send to people I care about. May we never forget…
“The one thing all famous authors, world class athletes, business tycoons, singers, actors and celebrated achievers in any field have in common is that they all began their journey’s when they were none of these.”
– Mike Dooley
The little stuff is what leads to the kind of life you probably couldn’t even dream up right now.
If we start to identify ourselves as the kind of person who makes progress, and we start to represent that to ourselves and others, we naturally want to stay consistent to that image. That’s when momentum becomes a part of who we are – no matter how crazy things get.
This path can be frightening. In fact, I guarantee it will be.
No one says it would be easy. And they shouldn’t! If they do, it’s your job to stop listening.
When was easy ever really appreciated anyway?
One thing I know – the only part that matters – is that moving forward is unbelievably worth it.
Swings and all. 🙂
That’s the beauty of our adventure here.
It’s all part of the party.
-Scott
P.S. And on that note…
Live Your Legend Momentum Workshops are Coming Soon!
I know a lot of you are wondering what the next step is – so that’s our next step at LYL! This year I’ll be offering a series of live online workshops + Q&A sessions on specific topics with the sole purpose of building momentum and making progress. And they’ll be priced so all of you can afford them.
The first one will be held in a few weeks, and since about 70% of you plan to change jobs in the next year, that’s what our first topic will be: The first steps to transitioning to your dream career.
More details coming in the next couple weeks. This has been on my mind for a long time, and I can’t wait!
But I’ll need your help to get it right…
So in the comments, share your next step or tell us one thing you want covered in the first workshop. I’d love to include it!
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Lorena
Posted at 23:58h, 08 AprilScott-
The thing that I struggle with again and again isn’t taking action but determining how to prioritize my time. I’ve got more ideas than time! Sometimes I feel like I’m flitting from thing to thing. They are all important but which is most important?
Galen
Posted at 15:43h, 09 AprilLorena – I often struggle with this as well and I always put together a mini action plan for each of my ideas (max 5 mins) and then ask myself which are the most actionable and which will bring me the most benefit (enjoyment, profit, etc.)
I hate the feeling of jumping around from idea to idea but I think it’s something we are all guilty of at one point or another. I like to think the more I focus on actionable steps, the more I’ll stay on track one small task at a time 🙂
Jan Koch
Posted at 02:39h, 09 AprilHey Scott,
what a perfect timing for this post!
I’m currently in a situation where my training program is going ok, but not as good as expected – even though I’m sure the quality is high and current members are satisfied. This situation gets me a bit paralyzed.
So today I took one hour to go through all open tasks that need to get done and managed them in my Getting Things Done system. And now I’m taking action, just one step at a time.
What you’re saying here really resonates with me. We’re all experiencing these tough situations and we all need to push through them to accomplish our goals, regardless whether we’re already building a 7-figure business or just starting out.
Best regards,
Jan
Jen Zeman
Posted at 05:02h, 09 AprilThank you SO much for this pep talk Scott! I will never give up on my dream of making South Pacific Bound my full-time, and lucrative, career. My next step: offload my current inventory so I can move forward.
Have a great day!
Mike Goncalves
Posted at 05:34h, 09 AprilGreat stuff Scott –
Particularly loved “I can’t imagine a feeling more worth leaning into.” What an awesome statement. For me, two thing I struggle with is 1) knowing whether or not I am doing the right things to progress 2) getting my purpose, my cause out there to the world so that I may develop a community around it that also believes what I believe. These are my two biggies. One of my favorites that always reminders me to just act, do something:
“Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” ~ Steve Jobs
Cheers!
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Nancy
Posted at 08:15h, 09 AprilI was in a job that I cared about although it made me sick (and I should have left much earlier than I did). I have rebuilt my health and am looking for my next great opportunity and am very excited about your next workshop as it is very timely for me. I want to do things differently this time around to be in a better place where I can share my strengths with like-minded people. I love your website and the work you do. Thanks Scott!
maarit
Posted at 08:27h, 09 AprilIt’s the “expectations adapting” that kill me. I have to make a serious effort to feel grateful for every step toward progress I’ve made– even baby steps. Sometimes, though, looking back at that progress is like I’m peeking over the edge of a cliff. Disorienting. Dizzying. And it’s hard to imagine going higher. Or maybe I’m just waiting for things to get less scary? But this post makes me realize– they won’t. It’s always scary. But it’s always progress too. And scary doesn’t have to mean bad.
John
Posted at 07:52h, 22 AprilMaarit, I know exactly how you feel. I do know, however, that fear is the blood of success. We misdefine what the feeling of fear is. To feel means “I AM ALIVE!” The feelings are bioligical function and is simply the bodie’s method of preparing you for the fight.
In excercizing faith, I do not have to know how something will work out; I do not have to make it work out; I just have to step out.
Be encouraged.
Kyley
Posted at 09:40h, 09 AprilScott, thank you!
Your post was exactly what I needed today. I’m having one of those days where I feel like I’m not walking the talk to make my dreams happen. I’m tired, discouraged and sad. I’m grateful for your reminder that I’m not alone, that bumps are normal and that this will pass. Thanks for being the voice of a friend.
I’m going to go take 3 actions to move my business forward right now, and then I’m going to appreciate them. Then maybe the next 3 will come a little easier…
Ricky
Posted at 12:51h, 09 AprilHi Scott, Thank you for this! And good timing! What stood out for me is how you mentioned these gremlins were normal.. And I second the problem that Lorena posted.
Janet
Posted at 15:36h, 09 AprilExcellent timing Scott and thank you for the tips and reassurance that I am not alone in thinking and feeling as you describe. In posting this comment as my ‘do one thing’ for today I feel like I am taking my first step in admitting ‘out loud’ that I am committed to moving forward instead of just listening to the thoughts spinning round in my head. Looking forward to reflecting and celebrating my achievements next !
Bryan
Posted at 15:37h, 09 AprilHow to network with others to build your audience.
Galen
Posted at 15:46h, 09 AprilGlad it’s supposed to be scary and it’s not just me 😉
I love the Eleanor Roosevelt quote “Do one thing every day that scares you…”
I try to live by this and at least push my comfort zone on a daily or weekly basis. It always seems to pay off if not with measurable results than with the experience I gain in the process.
Sean
Posted at 16:16h, 09 AprilWhat steps do you use to validate your ideas so you know if you could actually make a living off of your dream?
Sebastian Thalhammer
Posted at 16:31h, 09 AprilHey Scott. Here is what definitely needs to be tackled: F E A R !
Worst enemy or strongest supporter. It is basically a matter of mindset.
When we start doing new / different things which is beyond our current limits we are confronted with concerns, doubts, low self esteem and whatsoever. Even if we have the skills to do it, our fear is often reducing our ability to express it. Simple example: Fear of talking in front of people. We all know how to speak and most of us are more than able to deliver a good story. But when it comes to sharing it in front of a certain amount of people it can happen that all our abilities are temporarily gone.
Fear is also sometimes covered in indifference, unable to make a choice and decreasing one’s ability to see further down the road.
E.g. it is hard to prioritize sometimes because we would rather have backup plans and plan b options in case we fail (fear of failure), etc.
I would say covering that topic would solve a lot other issues to which are directly related …
Jeff Goins
Posted at 17:23h, 09 AprilStart before you’re ready. Love it!
Scott
Posted at 17:37h, 09 AprilSpoken like a true writer Jeff ;). The interesting thing is if you wait until you’re ready, you’ll never actually start. That’s something to meditate on…
And to the rest of you who’ve left your comments – THANK YOU. This is helping a ton as I piece this workshop together. We’ll announce more about it in the next week or two.
Now I gotta get to work!
Oh and P.S. In full disclosure, part of me writing this post was me taking that next step I’ve been holding off forever and announcing the Workshop, because it’s been on my list to do for you all for WAY too long. Now it’s time to get it out there. And no, I’m not totally ready. But by now we know that’s a good sign :). So thanks for the accountability everyone!
Kath
Posted at 17:29h, 09 AprilScott, I have taken that first scarey step so many times but that is the easy buzzy bit. It’s keeping going for the next wee while that is harder in fact. Those weeks when it is still shit scarey AND the rest of life is demanding attention but before you start to see any sort of result at all are the killer. The adrenaline’s gone and the “what the hell am I thinking” monster starts up. I would be particularly interested in hearing from yourself and others how you keep momentum going through periods when you are feeling a bit down and lost and it isn’t possible to quickly surround yourself with real life legends to push you forward cos they’re all busy being legendary in their own thing / way. And rightly so 🙂
Carol
Posted at 17:39h, 09 AprilI’m feeling this bad right now, lol. And have been for the past few months.
Scott, you’re right when you say things always take longer than you think they take so right now I’m trying to stay focused on the little teeny tiny gains I’ve made recently instead of fixating on the big picture that I wanted for those gains.
I spose it all comes down to keeping the faith!
Zarelsie
Posted at 17:49h, 09 AprilHi Scott,
Perfect timing for this post! I was in a “lull” of any ideas and the ones I had seemed very daunting. So after reading this post, I changed my focus from this daunting mountain to take a breath and look back at where I have come in …short 2 months.. And you are right! The progress is amazing. The look back has inspired me to now take on the mountain, one small step at a time.
Thank you for helping to change perspective and gain insight from it! Can’t wait for your “The first steps to transitioning to your dream career”.
Hyacinth Steele
Posted at 18:45h, 09 AprilMy next step: List my projects and start writing actions and dates next to each. I find it motivating when I can see where I am going and record my progress…rather than just thinking about all the things I LOVE to do, but am too tired at the end of a full day at work.
I am visual – so I will illustrate these with ‘doodles’ to help me visualise the actions I need to take 🙂
Persis Shanker
Posted at 19:57h, 09 AprilHi Scott! Great post and I mentioned a few things in my comments to you on FB regarding this article. I think as a person who also quit a lucrative job at a top global broadcaster, I felt ALONE. Very alone. And I still do. I’ve always been someone who can take action by myself (I’m an only child btw) but man, walking this path alone with everyone around you wondering why I would throw away a job like I had during a recession is tough. I see people giving me looks like ‘You’re already 40. Are you crazy?’ But I felt at my job, I wasn’t getting to where I needed to be, so giving it up to set up 2 businesses a media content creation studio (to pay my bills which is half of what I used to earn) and along with that to build a startup brand, the Tomboy Tarts blog and podcast was indeed a crazy idea. I’m walking on thin ice basically. I would love you to address how we can find strength and confidence to go it alone, bootstrapping your business with whatever cash you had saved because really, that for me is the toughest part. It really erodes my confidence some days and scares me as well although I’m really good at putting up a front and trying to smile and be positive about it. That would really help me and I’m sure a lot of people out there. Thanks Scott!
Regina
Posted at 21:32h, 09 AprilThis post just helped me to do the very next thing I need to in the pursuit of living my legend. It’s this tiny little thing in the grand scheme of stuff but that to me can be super scary and stressful. But with the words of this post and the many comments here, I did it with your virtual support. The three ideas really do work. 🙂 Feeling good and grateful.
Kevin Cheng
Posted at 23:39h, 09 April“Or you’re writing line one of the launch post for the blog you’ve been planning to start for years.”
Hey Scott – It’s like you read my mind! I spent one and a half weeks recently working on my launch post for a blog I’m starting. Not all day every day during that time, but still I never expected it to take that long. The perfectionist in me wanted to get it just right.
My next step is to allocate the amount of time (hours) per week to devote to my blog – approx hours per blog post, etc. Definitely will set a maximum time per post to make my blogging effort sustainable over the long term. Like most people there are other projects I’m working on, so allocating time carefully is a must.
Can’t wait to see your Momentum workshop launch. Keep up YOUR momentum!
Kevin
Stephanie M
Posted at 06:12h, 10 Aprilmy next step seems to be figuring out why what I am trying to do is important to me. If I can’t express my thoughts and feeling, how will I sell my products/ideas to others. Then I can begin marketing.
Oshikan
Posted at 00:35h, 11 AprilI like what you figured out to be your next step Stephanie. I’ve heard so much from marketers / website creation ‘rule – er’s’ that we have to solely concentrate on what our clients want and write/advertise from this mindset. And do it within 8 seconds to catch their attention too! But I get stuck here – overwhelmed and paralyzed. It sounds like great advice and certainly has merit BUT my struggles and dilemmas and what I need for self-growth and fulfillment have always been a mirror and direction to take for what also benefits my clients. Said better; if I try an idea / exercise/ mind-set out on myself first and find it to have merit, then I can offer it to my coaching clients with conviction and a deep understanding of the effects and benefits. I’m my own guinea pig (sorry little furry ones). My next Kaizen step (little step) is to write content for my website that expresses why what I do is important to me. I can tweak it later to be about clients. We are all ONE.
Oshikan
Posted at 02:25h, 11 AprilOh and PS. Just realized that simply writing down what I like and what gives me an inner “yes” nudge, chosen from the overwhelming (negative mind-set re-surfacing) plethora of gathered knowledge about which direction to take in business building and as goodies for clients is….also going to give me the ‘red thread’ that I have been weaving on how to structure the monthly LYL LOCAL meetups that I host here in Berlin, Germany. “The Way is the Goal.”
Thanks for reading my ramblings. Would appreciate hearing your thoughts.
PSS I have a face. Can someone explain please how I can get my picture uploaded onto this reply page?
Susan
Posted at 11:30h, 10 AprilThank you, thank you for your newsletter yesterday. The last few nights I’ve been waking up in the middle of the night freaked out, in complete fear and wondering what on earth I have done. You see, not long ago I decided to leave my job & set up an inclusive art studio.
I have challenged myself many times to do new things & I know that paralizing fear that often hits but it generally does not last that long for me and I’m able to take things step by step. This time however it has lasted for over a week and I just haven’t been able to push through it-it’s been pretty debilitating and I just cannot get myself organized. Then I read your comments when you said that it’s often because it matters so much & it all made total sense.
And your suggestion to reflect is a good one. I’m going to take some time today and give myself a huge pat on the back for all that I’ve accomplished. It’s amazing really: I’ve quit my job, developed a solid business plan, applied for grants & funding & got them, leased a warehouse property which is now under renovation. I’ve been putting in 12-18 hour days of physical labour which my body isn’t used to so I am exhausted on top of everything but your posting helped me realize my first step needs to be finding more people to do the physical work & to delegate a couple of other things that need to be done.
Once again, thank you for all of the reminders. They came at just the right time.
Anna
Posted at 07:45h, 18 AprilWell done Susan, you go girl. Have a feeling you have achieved more than you realize. Those moments com, good that you are here, where Scott and others understand it too well. You are building something big, prepare for win doubts try to knock you off again; so this time you are ready. Ready to knock them off.
Good luck with your empire.
John
Posted at 08:05h, 22 AprilI LOVE your studio! It makes me want to make a mess.
I am taking a course by Simon Sinek called Start with Why. It is designed to distinguish WHAT we do from WHY we do something. It’s the WHY that resonates with our passion, and gives people an emotional reason to be involved in your WHY. So, if I may ask, what is your WHY?
Emilie
Posted at 13:53h, 10 AprilHi Scott,
Thanks for taking the time to write those inspiring words. They are truly helping in times of doubt and uncertainty. I’m going to my first LYL meeting next week here in MTL. Looking forward to the online workshop!
Cheers
Erin
Posted at 18:03h, 10 AprilThanks for posing the question, Scott. For me what’s stopping me from the next step is partly mental blocks (working on those) but partly serious practical issues. 1) How to refine a webpage to target an audience when you’ve never set one up before, are clueless about marketing, and DO NOT HAVE A DIME TO SPEND? I see some LYL’ers without funds doing what I probably could do but don’t take the time to because I have so many nice excuses. . . cram hours of self-tutorial videos until they understand enough to do it all on their own. 2) When you realize you are trying to build something to serve others that has never existed before, how do you do this? (I’ve contacted countless organizations to see if I could “team up” or do a workshop with some, and they all say no one in the US is doing what I’m attempting). This means there is not only a lot of fear on my part, but a lot of fear of the “unknown” on their part. 3) When you dentify precisely what your dream is but are doing the exact polar opposite to keep a roof over your head and you are desperately trying to find another job to get by, how do you KEEP momentum and faith in the thing you are building? It’s been 3 years since my vision, and baby steps have led to whatever it is now, but it’s not much at all. . . still a vision. Thanks!
Kristen
Posted at 06:24h, 11 AprilI needed to read this one today… getting the momentum going to finally start a business I’ve long wanted to do and you are right, those details get under your skin and I get in my head and start thinking of all the little things I could do to sabotage myself before I’ve even gotten started.
Nice to hear its not just me!
Angie Dixon
Posted at 07:47h, 11 AprilThanks, Scott.
I’ve had one of those weeks. There have been a few moments this week when I’ve wondered what on earth I think I’m doing and who on earth I think I am.
What I did was one of the things you suggested–one thing. And then I did another, and then another. By the end of next week I’ll have a book completed by doing one thing at a time. I write books; that’s not a huge deal, but this book has been harder and the road has been rockier.
I think one thing I really struggle with is how to keep going, not just in the face of mental blocks, but when dealing with physical illness or a migraine or the like.
Thanks, Scott.
Lu
Posted at 16:29h, 11 AprilThanks a lot for your useful, down to earth posts and perfect-timing advice.
As I am into my transition, I have had important lessons:
1) take the courage to ask for help. it’s ok to be vulnerable.
2) be grateful to those who offer the help I have asked for.
3) be ok with myself and still grateful with those who say no to my ask. They say no not because they don’t like me or respect me. instead, they might be able to see things I can’t and can direct me to an alternative option that I did not think of before. Humbling but helpful.
Anna
Posted at 07:21h, 18 AprilLove it Lu, I’m right there with you learning to ask for help and not trying to do everything myself.
Best wishes.
Abdul
Posted at 08:59h, 30 NovemberYou changed my life thank you im 9 years old
Daniel
Posted at 17:26h, 11 AprilWhat if the reason the next step, or even the first steps, feels impossible is due to money?
I know what the tops in the field I’m interested have done to get where they are. I know what I need to do. The problem is that due to a Mount Everest of medical bills 20 years ago, I don’t have the funds to even start down that path. I’ve tried several times, but it was money that stopped me every time. Passion, desire, sacrifice, etc, all weren’t enough. Even working three jobs until it put me in the hospital wasn’t enough, and actually made me lose a lot of ground.
There is no way I can afford to take the steps I need to take to get where I’m going. My life is nothing but eat, work, pay bills… I’ve lost twenty years to just paying bills… How do I get past that?
Darryl
Posted at 08:19h, 12 AprilScott,
Thank you for sharing. I felt like you understand excatly how I feel.
You’re awesome!
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Anna
Posted at 07:18h, 18 AprilScott,
You genius, mind reading wizard 😉 This is exactly what I need and that is what I’m feeling today- resistance, despair and being lost, no strength to take the next step.
You put me back on the right path, thank you. Even though things that meant to be easy are falling apart right now, I can reflect- tai it as a lesson forward and yes I did create something already.
So much more energy, hope and light right now.
Lori
Posted at 12:40h, 18 AprilThanks for the reminder that I’m not alone in my doubts. My job is ending next week and it gives me the perfect push to start my own business. I think reflection is important because sometimes we don’t realize how far we’ve already come and your advice to do something/anything, even if it’s not the “perfect’ thing is vital to moving forward.
Elaine Reynolds
Posted at 20:12h, 20 AprilGreat Article!
Keep reminding yourself that everything is possible.
You can learn from other people to make up
for your lack of experience in any area of life.
Be open and receptive to the people around you.
They have things to teach you.
Take advantage of the people that have made
the journey ahead of you.
Listen to this so you can learn more on believing on yourself.
http://ilivetoinspire.com/follow-the-path-of-others-a-quicker-way-to-success/
Rafael
Posted at 05:56h, 21 AprilHi,
my next step for building a ” life school” is to connect with a friend and to make detailed plans about the purpose and the content.
Andrew
Posted at 07:07h, 21 AprilMost important sentence in article: “Here’s the reality: This. Is. Normal.”
Thanks for writing this piece. Was a good way to start my Monday.
Aditya
Posted at 05:24h, 23 April“Do one thing”. This is so true. I know it’s something that you find everywhere, but it can’t be repeated enough.
As you say, Scott, the key is just to take a small, tiny, easy bite at something important. It doesn’t need to be a perfect next step. All it needs to be is the step we feel ready to take now.
I have a small trick I use. I ask, what’s the smallest definition of this day becoming a success? And I deliberately dial it all down to ridiculously easy things. Then the day can’t fail, but it might get better than that minimum bar.
Jim M
Posted at 12:52h, 23 AprilI’m trying to review all the biggest risks/weaknesses limiting me from achieving my goal, and comming up with small action plans to try to take each one of those down (like, learning about effective marketing, or financial management). Hopefully I can shrink the gremlins to a manageable size.
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Megan Cahill
Posted at 11:11h, 05 MarchI’m interested in more info on dealing with the financial impact of leaving one’s steady job to pursue one’s dream; especially for those of us that have not had the opportunity to “suffer through a six figure job for decades” and have little to no savings and live hand-to-mouth as it is.
Daniel
Posted at 19:52h, 06 MarchYes!!! How to even start pursuing a dream, when mere survival is what you deal with…and two decades of sacrificing everything in your life has actually moved you further from your goals.
How to even get to the point of starting…
Brick Filming
Posted at 06:05h, 01 DecemberSame here.. dreams don’t pay the bills !
Melissa Ogilvie
Posted at 23:21h, 05 NovemberI would like to be part of creating the worlds’ best rehab centres for Australians with addictions, whatever they be. Using the .san Patrignano programme as a starting point then adding more.
Offering free education in a vibrant, healthy environment.