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Door #1 or Door #2? The Decision that Could Haunt You Forever…

Door #1 or Door #2? The Decision that Could Haunt You Forever…

Door1 or Door2

“You can fail at something you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance doing what you love.” – Jim Carrey

The Decision that Haunts Us

I try to be as real about things as possible around here, so you have the best and most realistic chance of doing the work you can’t not do.

That’s why last week I wrote about the dark side of entrepreneurship, and the week before I covered our unbelievable possibility.

But here’s the the thing.

Each of us has one real choice to make, and today, I’d like you to make it. There are only two options…

Door #1: Pursue a life and career that matters to you. (Seems risky.)

The trouble with this option is that it will suck sometimes. Whether you’re joining a big, inspiring company or building your own thing, sometimes it’ll be scary. There will be sleepless nights, lots of challenges, bipolar-like emotions, intense decisions, high stress and all kinds of uncertainty. There are some long hours, frustrating discussions, money problems and at times you’ll feel you’re not making as much progress as you hoped. And after all the diehard dedication and hard work, you could totally fail or get fired.

or…

Door #2: Pursue a life and career that doesn’t matter to you. (Seems safe.)

The trouble with this option is that it will also sometimes suck. It’ll be scary, there will be sleepless nights, lots of challenges, bipolar-like emotions, intense decisions, high stress and all kinds of uncertainty. There are some long hours, frustrating discussions, money problems and at times you’ll feel you’re not making as much progress as you hoped. And after all the diehard dedication and hard work, you could also totally fail or get fired.

Either way, things will be hard.

And that’s the beauty of it.

Odds are that if you spend your life slaving away doing work you can’t stand with people you don’t like to support a cause you don’t believe in, you’ll get to have all those same experiences and emotions. The same goes for having a job or career that’s just “okay”.

Both doors come with highs and lows, and neither will always be easy. That’s just how life works.

But there is one significant difference between the two…

With Door #2, there’s a good chance that in 10, 20 or 30 years you’ll wish you had spent all that time, effort and life doing something that actually mattered to you – making some type of a difference for yourself and those around you.

In an uncertain world, Door #2 comes with one near certainty – regret.

And I see that as the biggest risk of all.

You’ll wake up in a decade and wish you would have chosen Door #1. And you’ll know you didn’t because complacency got the better of you. Because you weren’t sure of the first steps to take.

All Door #1 requires is an extra level of intention and awareness.

Know who you are and make decisions based on your own ideas, vision and values as opposed to someone else’s.

That is the only real difference. Otherwise the paths behind the two doors could look identical.

But you’ll know the difference. You can probably feel it right now.

But you wanna know the best part?

You can still open Door #1 right now.

But the longer you wait, the harder the knob is to turn.

As Jim Carrey says, “You can fail at something you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance doing what you love.”

So, which will it be?

Lean back in your chair for 60 seconds right now and think about it.

It’s not about risking it all.

In fact, it’s quite the contrary.

If you’re with us, write “Door #1” in the comments. If you’re not, then tell us how we can help.

Remember, you have tens of thousands of us in your corner, from all over the world.

That’s why Live Your Legend exists.

And something tells me that’s why you’re reading this.

-Scott

 Image Credit: Taken by me while exploring Santorini just before sunrise. See more of the adventure on Instagram

95 Comments
  • Rebecca
    Posted at 04:27h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1. It can’t get out of my head. So I have to try it.

    Don’t forget, everybody — you don’t have to go through that door alone, and you’re not the only one doing it. You probably know at least one person who has a money-making side venture or is successfully self-employed. Even if you don’t, LYL and lots of communities like it can be found on the internet. Join one, if you’re opening or thinking hard about opening Door #1, then these are your people now!

    • Scott
      Posted at 07:40h, 20 August Reply

      So perfectly put Rebecca – these are your people. WE are your people!

      No one is going through this alone, that’s for sure. I’ve come to realize that’s the most valuable part of what LYL has become – a community of people who help make the impossible not only possible but normal. That’s thanks to all of you.

      And it’s all about self-employment. I know a lot of you are headed that way, which is awesome. But you can change the world inside a big company as well. The important part is that you’re intentional in the decisions you make so they’re being based on who you are and the difference you want to make. Be it a company of one or a company of 10,000 – just be sure that’s where you know you belong.

      Onward!

      • Rebecca
        Posted at 09:50h, 20 August Reply

        Did you mean to say “it’s *not* all about self-employment” ? It’s a good point. What’s behind door #1 may not be self-employment (e.g, you’ve always wanted to be a teacher, you don’t necessarily have to start your own school!). Or it may not be a particular job at all, but a set of priorities that you’d have to compromise behind door #2.

      • Kate
        Posted at 16:44h, 26 August Reply

        I am seriously thinking about finding a way to be a motivational speaker, but it is damn hard when everyone I live with says I will certainly fail, and even if I don’t, I can’t even try because it takes money that my husband and I don’t have to take classes to learn the skills I need. My husband and his family are also very pessamistic people who believe whole heartedly that everything in life that is good is bound to fail eventually, so how on Earth do I begin? I need to be making something in order for my family to even consider getting behind me.
        I have worked my butt off my entire life despite having doors slammed in my face repeatedly. doing everything from surviving twenty five brain surgeries within a year and a half to graduating high school and going on to college. Everyone told me I would fail, but I didn’t, but then I wasn’t worried about paying my bills, now I am. Help! How do I find a way to figure out how to become a motivational speaker, and show people how amazing this world is?
        I want to find a way to change the world, but how?

  • Darren
    Posted at 04:59h, 20 August Reply

    Great post Scott, thanks for sharing.

    I opened door #1 a couple of years ago and haven’t looked back since.

    • Scott
      Posted at 07:44h, 20 August Reply

      Music to my ears Darren. You’re in good company here. Now you gotta tell us where it’s taken you!

  • Jen
    Posted at 08:26h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1. It’s obvious when you put it like that!

  • Helen
    Posted at 08:26h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1!!! 🙂

  • Stacey
    Posted at 08:38h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1! The past couple years, I have known that I needed to make a change, but was scared. Now, sure, I’m nervous, but more excited because I know it’s my soul speaking and I AM READY to listen and take action!!

  • Swati
    Posted at 08:47h, 20 August Reply

    Honest and Inspiring as ever! Thanks Scott for sharing this. Sleepless nights, bipolar-like emotions, money problems – a writing life definitely comes with all of those things….but all these are also accompanied by momentary moments of joy and limitless possibilities of growth….so i would never trade my chosen path for something that comes with higher security and a bigger paycheck 🙂

  • Kathryn Hodgson
    Posted at 08:48h, 20 August Reply

    Door#1!! Finding my way forwards as a freelance writer and conservationist after being forced to give up my job due to injury. Exciting, terrifying times ahead!

  • Mike Goncalves
    Posted at 08:48h, 20 August Reply

    Short, sweet, to the point, and right on point…. Door #1 for sure! Love the pictures too and how it tied into your message… Awesome!

  • Alixandrea
    Posted at 09:04h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1. I spent that decade going the “safe” path through door #2. It turned out not to be safe at all. I am so very grateful that I got a second chance…

  • Joy
    Posted at 09:09h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1. Once I opened the door, I couldn’t possibly choose any other path – it’s simply become a way of being, celebrating each moment as fully as possible and allowing that love, joy and gratitude to be the current that moves me. I find that the sucky moments tend to be the ones I have either forgotten to celebrate or am resisting the connection/creative expression that is asking for my presence and trust.

  • Paula
    Posted at 09:10h, 20 August Reply

    Such a great article and for me, good timing. Each day I choose Door # 2. Your earlier post on the “Dark Side” came at my “dip” and it is comforting to know that others experience this after a period of growth. An early morning walk and this post waiting in the inbox has lit the fire once again. Thank you!

  • Tara
    Posted at 09:19h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1 …

    After a great holiday in Barcelona preceded by a visit to the osteopath to unblock my neck and back from stress (jeez …) I’ve decided to turn down the management-based promotion that my boss had offered me. Increase in money … and stress … and not AT ALL the direction I want my life to take.

    Not wanting to continue in exactly the same direction and regret it 10 years later, I’ve also decided to work 4 days a week on my pay-the-rent job (which I enjoy) and 1 day a week to start following my dream of writing in a far more concrete way.

    Jim Carrey’s quote is superb.

    Your posts are great – And have helped me to take a controlled mini leap. I need more people who won’t let me fail so I’m going to be more present on the site from now on!

  • Lars
    Posted at 09:22h, 20 August Reply

    I’d obviously prefer Door #1, and I’m coming to a crossroad real soon. It just seems like that door is friggin’ invisible to me.

  • Debashish
    Posted at 09:23h, 20 August Reply

    Loved the 2 paragraphs on Door #1 & #2, Scott. I was like, “Wait, didn’t he just…”, and then I got it! Brilliant stuff!

    I’m for Door #1, all the way. It’s like you said in LOYP, “What’s the worst that could happen? Write it down and then you’ll realize it doesn’t seem so bad.”

  • Sophie
    Posted at 09:39h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1 of course

    Thanks for this post, Scott (and all your posts and inspiration and hard work in general actually).

    I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently. I’m just a year out of university and feel like I’m at a pivotal point. I think I’ve been dithering between the two doors for a year, terrified to open either! I think the hardest thing is to STAY FOCUSED on what I want to do with my life as it’s very easy with my lack of experience to get buffeted around by other people’s ideas. It also means that I have to trust myself which is easier said than done!

    But thank goodness for LYL and for all its people. It’s good to know I’m not alone!

  • Lani
    Posted at 09:49h, 20 August Reply

    Would love to choose Door #1 but I’m still trying to figure out what that means for me. I only know I have a desire to connect with others, it’s all so vaguely defined. So far I have been attempting to do that with my blog, meaning in the mundane, and hoping some how and in some way create a little community that way. Will see. Taking initial baby steps. Good luck every one on your journey!

  • Sriram
    Posted at 10:13h, 20 August Reply

    Door 1 no brianer. Yet to open it though.

  • Janice
    Posted at 10:34h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1! Thanks so much, Scott. I’ve been agonizing over a decision for continuing education that will supplement the work I love. This post was the nudge I needed to say “yes”! Thank you!

  • Thomas
    Posted at 10:58h, 20 August Reply

    Funny, I thought I was through door #1 but it was really someone else’s door (right values, wrong place) so now I have to regroup, and do a Harry potter and go through the door 1 1/2 and come out where it is my dream- and not the work I would do for free with someone else owning the real value…

    (Trainer working for someone else – now need my own place and team)

    A great test of a dream is going through the process of leaving it.

    So now I have to go into door #2 till it is time to run at the brick wall and hope it goes where others have gone.

  • Mieke
    Posted at 11:00h, 20 August Reply

    It seems easy to Mie how you put it but…
    You are so far a head, do you still (after all your succes) remember how it was at first… This is some scary sh*t… If you don’t follow your dreams and you fail, it won’t hurt as much! You didn’t put your self out there…
    I want to make the change and risk it all! So door#1 for Mie!
    Scared and all, I am going for it!

    Thanks for the inspiration! So much needed in this world!

  • James Michael Taylor
    Posted at 11:07h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1

    My time over the last eight months with the LYL Local folks in San Antonio, led by the awesome Steve Arensberg, has made an unimaginable difference in the tangible progress I’m making with my passion project. So much so, I wrote a blog post to my readers called ‘Accountability is the plateau killer’, about what an impact LYL Local has had on me: http://parttimephoto.com/accountability-is-the-plateau-killer/

    The mental tool of recognizing how equal the work is between doing what you love and doing what you don’t is a powerful one. We’re in an amazing age that we have access to these ideas, discussions, and good people with whom we share these values.

    Thank you for all you do, Scott!

  • AJ
    Posted at 11:29h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1, but it’s lonely as hell!

  • Carly
    Posted at 12:24h, 20 August Reply

    DOOR # ONE 🙂

    “Hunger will destroy your fear of failure.” ~Tony Robbins

    Stay inspired everyone!!

  • Andrej
    Posted at 13:02h, 20 August Reply

    DOOR 1!!!

    Now the question is what are you going to do with the fear that holds you back from going through the door?

    • Sara Bangerter
      Posted at 12:01h, 26 August Reply

      Recognize that “fear is a vapor” and never had any power over you in the first place! I’ve found that if I have, as Scott puts it, ’20 seconds of insane courage’ in facing my fear of the future, it all but disappears. I can do anything for 20 seconds, and after that 20 seconds I know I can do so much more.

  • jason
    Posted at 13:37h, 20 August Reply

    door #1 the only way one should go.

  • Dania
    Posted at 13:55h, 20 August Reply

    I´m still searching for my Door #1, for my TRUE passion in life. I wont lie to you, I feel lost and scared most (if not all) of the time, I havent had my “aha!” moment… yet. However that “yet” and people like you Scott (and all the LYL people) are my fuel to keep searching, keep wanting more and like HDT said “…and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived”

  • Mike
    Posted at 14:05h, 20 August Reply

    I am at odds with this. I have not seen a news reporter, corp. exec., actor etc. on tv. who is stressed, has bi-polar emotions, looks uncertain as you are seeing them talk, interviewing for 1/2 hr. our more. Jim Carrey had none of the above in his long speech.

    • Alixandrea
      Posted at 14:15h, 20 August Reply

      Mike, you may not see this, but you can bet your last penny that it happens. All of the people you have mentioned ‘perform’ their jobs: the stage may not be a ‘real’ one, but it’s there all right. There are many, many actors who can seem to be completely confident once they’re in the spotlight, but who are literally sick with fear before they go on stage. One of the most confident, alive people I have ever met still suffers insomnia from time to time… You can never know from the public face of the people you have mentioned just what is going on in their private lives…

      • Mike
        Posted at 14:41h, 20 August Reply

        That is true, but when they are talking to an audience, making a presentation, having lunch together, being in a meeting.. etc. there is no sign of bi-polar, stress (forgetting, rambling, nervous, what am I doing here?), uncertainty etc

        One does not need to be in the public eye.

    • Sean
      Posted at 22:45h, 20 August Reply

      It might seem unrelated, but dare I say “Robin Williams?” True his demons may not have been caused by the self-employment career he chose, but that he would have suffered from ups and downs just like the rest of us, about finding work/not finding work, seems fairly logical. I think the point of this article was that SCARY S**T HAPPENS, and it is going to happen regardless of which career choices we make. There are also going to be risks along the way, but whether we chose ‘safe’ or ‘the unknown’ isn’t going to necessarily reduce those risks.

  • maria
    Posted at 14:14h, 20 August Reply

    door #1. That’s is to answer but the way that will make the door #1 open is hard to find.

  • Satish
    Posted at 16:47h, 20 August Reply

    I choose door no.1 because I believe every person should give himself a chance to do something we love, that is the best gift we can give ourselves. Only the Thought of knowing my passion is driving me crazy, wanting to do every possible thing to find it. I know it will feel better after I know what it is, but just gonna focus on the journey for now..::)

  • Sebastian Aiden Daniels
    Posted at 17:00h, 20 August Reply

    I’m all for door 1 but holy crap it is hard sometimes. I already have a mental health history, so those bipolar emotions hit me hardcore. This past week has been so hard in regards to my feelings around my online business stuff. This post is a nice reminder to keep going and moving forward. It will suck at times but keep moving forward. Thanks.

    • Sara Bangerter
      Posted at 12:07h, 26 August Reply

      Your comment made my heart swell. Thank you for being genuinely you.

  • Will
    Posted at 17:39h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1

  • Kelly
    Posted at 17:54h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1 definitely, regret is one of my top 5 pain values I plan to stay away from it! Currently walking towards to door #1 trying to decide what my passion is.

  • Janay Danielle
    Posted at 18:06h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1! I’m working towards a career in international aide and am still an undergraduate student. Any any aide workers out there that might have some great advice for me? Where to go to grad school? Which country/city might be best to work in? Particular organizations that you might recommend?

  • Sarah
    Posted at 18:09h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1- without a doubt!

    This door has always been slightly ajar, a light breeze blowing through. It’s just time to push it open- all fears aside 🙂

  • Trudy
    Posted at 19:02h, 20 August Reply

    Definitely door #1! Thanks for a simply stated thought provoking message, Scott.

  • Donna
    Posted at 19:21h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1! I worked at my last job for ten years and hated the last five years of it when new management took over. So I started working on turning my passion (photography) into a business. I found it difficult to build the business part time while working full time. I hated my job and boss more and more until I couldn’t take anymore. This is bullshit, I thought, working for a slave wage making someone else wealthy and famous (in this particular circle)…all the while, the boss was getting the attention and kudos for the work I (we) did. He relished in the empire HE built and was an asshole if you didn’t kiss his ass and stroke his ego. He ran 4 good long term employees during this time. So, I quit…rather suddenly…basically, take this job and shove it. I just did it. I took a risk and jumped off that cliff. I had enough faith in myself and skills to start my new career. I’m glad I did it. I am glad I am working for myself and building something that will be for me…something I feel will benefit my community. It’s hard and I am having some financial challenges but it will only get better as I learn and grow. Life is too short to do what you hate. It’s unhealthy and stress will kill you. DO what you love to do!

    • Donna
      Posted at 19:22h, 20 August Reply

      Oh, and I will turn 54 in September…it’s never too late…just wish I did it sooner.

      • Donna
        Posted at 19:32h, 20 August Reply

        Sorry I should have used Grawlixes
        (Typographical symbols standing for profanities, appearing in dialogue balloons in place of actual dialogue).

  • Noggin
    Posted at 20:22h, 20 August Reply

    Door #1

  • Teresa
    Posted at 21:16h, 20 August Reply

    Ah, it seems so straightforward.

    I chose Door #1 and loved it for 27 years. Things changed, and suddenly I find myself living behind Door #2. Thanks to Scott, a dear friend, and my H2CWA mastermind team, I am identifying my new Door #1, laying my groundwork, and planning my new life. Scary, yes, but I can feel the rekindling of my joy as well.

  • Tausif
    Posted at 21:52h, 20 August Reply

    Door no 1 of course!
    Like Jim Carrey, I’ve believed and said the same words, possibly more to convince myself than others into action. However, inertia is the enemy I have to overcome. 🙂
    Hopefully, we all can.

  • Alistair
    Posted at 22:31h, 20 August Reply

    Door # One. Just handed in my resignation after 9 years in same job. Love job and colleagues but it’s all for someone else’s dream, looking forward to following my own dreams. Bring it on!

  • Steve
    Posted at 01:36h, 21 August Reply

    Door #1. I am just opening it now.

    I Will be unemployed in a week and have numerous ideas and plans that I want to try, to see if something sticks.

    Scared, Afraid, Elated, and Excited in equal measures.

    It’s going to be a blast

  • Russell Ward
    Posted at 01:56h, 21 August Reply

    Hey Scott,

    I wrote a post about sliding doors and parallel lives yesterday, and one of my readers got your post the same day and now believes it’s fate in terms of her making a key life decision! Great stuff and I’m glad she directed me to this site. Maybe we can do some work together as we’re on similar pages in life? Anyway, here’s the post – http://www.insearchofalifelessordinary.com/2014/08/sliding-doors-parallel-lives.html

    Cheers!
    Russ

  • Christine
    Posted at 02:33h, 21 August Reply

    My heart says door #1 (I resigned last year & have done contracts since) and my head says mortgage (? = door #2). Small steps in the direction I want to go will get me there! 🙂

  • Dev
    Posted at 02:53h, 21 August Reply

    Door # 1 !!!

    Thanks Scott. Even as I read your post today – I have just stepped out embracing door #1 in a business I am very much into. The synchronicity of your post is amazing! It energizes me so much – and I’m sure it will benefit very many ppl through the work I am transitioning into.

  • James
    Posted at 04:53h, 21 August Reply

    Im not even sure what i love to do for life. Do i need to explore more about life?

  • Mike J
    Posted at 05:42h, 21 August Reply

    Door #1 Working on the change!

  • Deb Ducther
    Posted at 06:15h, 21 August Reply

    Thank you for the great post, Scott! I believe it was just what I needed to at least put my hand on the door knob.And tanks Rebecca for the reminder that we are all in this together.

  • Christina
    Posted at 06:40h, 21 August Reply

    Door #1

  • Samuel Hernandez
    Posted at 07:07h, 21 August Reply

    I am definitely with you! I joined this group for the inspiration. I love my job of training Career Counselors in the middle school. I look at this as a resource to help me do my job with great intention. I want every child in Houston to make a plan for their future that will be filled with passion and commitment. And I want our counselors to be passionate about helping a student figure out his/her true path to success!

  • gady
    Posted at 07:20h, 21 August Reply

    Door 1

  • Charley
    Posted at 10:19h, 21 August Reply

    I definitely want door #1. I am 67 years old and have for most of my life chosen door #1. I feel blessed to have served my country in the 60’s ( Air Force – it also paid for my college and helped me buy my first home ), owned my own business in the automotive aftermarket field, been married for forty-one years to the same woman and raised three great children, and for the past twenty plus years have been a drug and alcohol counselor and social worker with several hospitals. I am retired but learned many years ago that to survive retirement, you need to stay busy. I still work part-time in my profession at a local hospital. I had throat cancer last year with lots of radiation and chemo – I am cancer free and healthy today!
    Here’s where I would love some comments from others.
    Having survived cancer, I feel I have been given a second chance in life – I have no intention of wasting it. I would like to be a motivational speaker, blogger, writer etc. about breaking free from habitual behavior ( not just drugs and alcohol ) to help others live the life they envision for themselves. I’ve read books, listed to TED talks ( how I found this website ),listened to other You Tube speakers, so I’m familiar with the material.
    How do you get started? Have I bitten off more than I can chew? Am I an old fart who’s dreaming way too much? Oh, and I want to make money at this. I do OK with retirement and social security, but I want to do more before I take the long dirt nap.
    Hope this isn’t too long and I would really appreciate comments.

    • Alixandrea
      Posted at 01:18h, 22 August Reply

      Hey Charley, you sound awesome. 🙂 From what all the great bloggers I’ve read have to say about doing the kind of thing you want to do, the important thing is to get started. Get a blog going and write great content. Reach out to fellow people in your space and see if you can get a guest slot with them (on their blogs, at their conferences etc.) That helps you to build your audience. As I understand it, the better your writing and the more useful your content, the more people you will attract and the more likely you are to be able to make a business out of it.

      Best of luck! 🙂

  • Adam
    Posted at 13:57h, 21 August Reply

    My girlfriend and I are about to move to our dream location( byron bay) by the sea! Feeling the fear but I think it’s going to happen!

  • Darren Virassammy
    Posted at 14:16h, 21 August Reply

    Door Number 1: Definitely. I am now far into door number 1 after having spent a chunk of my life behind door 2. The beauty of this piece that must not be overlooked…if you realize you are behind door number 2 and want to head out and give door number 2 a try the power to do that lies within YOU! I am living proof of that, and I know many others who have taken that “risk” because they could not bear to later in life face the certainty of regret! Nicely done as always Scott!

  • Michael Sillion
    Posted at 17:19h, 21 August Reply

    Door #1
    Today is Day 8 in #YogaGirlChallenge
    Manifesting Dreams
    http://instagram.com/p/rq4XhwtPt4/?modal=true

    First Jonathan Fields urges us to
    Step into the Wind

    Live here and now!
    Act!
    Kill the missteps. Give birth to new steps
    Build around what your heart, your gut, your mind tell you, is where you need to go.
    Heroes, Leaders, Visionaries, Artist, Renegades, Rule-Breakers, Change-Makers and just plain old people on quest to engage with life, on a more meaning level all thrash. We all flounder. Well all struggle. We all go through periods of reckoning.

    But in the end it’s that intuitive sense that the struggle will lead to something richer that fuels us. That keeps us questioning and acting.
    So here’s to the struggle. I don’t invite it. But I do embrace it.

    Then a friend calls me out to start my own business today.
    Another friend offers me to join a “start your own business workshop” next week.

    Then you Scott Dinsmore gives us the the chance to choose between Door #1 and Door #2.
    So finally tonight I choose Door No.1

    My Dream is to teach people how they can live a better more successful life using daily training to become what I call a Creative Ninja. Training their skills in Empathy, Cognition and their Physical Body.

    I will now manifest this dream of mine! Going thrown Door No.1

    /@LordSillion

  • Nicole
    Posted at 22:01h, 21 August Reply

    Door #1 – and inspiring others to find their own path, too. Thank you Scott and the LYL Community for providing a network to share in this process together!

  • Paca
    Posted at 02:10h, 22 August Reply

    HOW YOU CAN HELP to get to Door #1

    Im a designer and run on my own business a few years now. I have won a design award, have been published in an book and so on… a lot of people would say Im really successful in my stage but….

    Still I don’t know which part it is that I can specialize on because its my best part and also the part that is fulfilling me.

    I can’t define it correctly for me: WHAT IS MY TRUE GIFT?

    Offering myself to customers I always notice that I haven’t found my voice to the highest level. (Or I am afraid to find and defend it)

    It seems that I and the customer somehow sense that I haven’t found it on a scale where I can truly speak up for my work and defend my purpose.

    This is what stops me from following through: the strong feeling that I haven’t found and can translate my gift correctly yet where I and everybody can feel I mean it and know what Im doing. This starts the fear of rejection and failure and holds me and I guess a lot of people back.

    SO: How do you get to the core of your gift and get yourself to follow through?

    Paca

  • Charley
    Posted at 03:13h, 22 August Reply

    Thank you Alixandrea,
    Starting with a blog might help me solidify my thoughts before standing in front of a bunch of people and going, “Uh…uh…”

    • Rebecca
      Posted at 03:48h, 22 August Reply

      Best part about starting a blog: It’s free! You can play with your ideas and figure out your brand and message and audience, basically without risk. From there, you can figure out what might work for you to make money: e-books, online courses, speaking gigs, taking on private clients, or any number of other things. For now, just get started!

      I also want to reassure you that your age is not a barrier. In fact, I’m sure it’ll be a selling point and something that helps you stand out from the life coach crowd!

  • Charley
    Posted at 03:57h, 22 August Reply

    Thanks Rebecca,
    This is the second comment I’ve received pointing to starting with a blog. There’s a clue here somewhere………………………………………………

  • Imani Harris
    Posted at 08:01h, 22 August Reply

    I am taking the leap of faith and have chosen door number #1 to pursue my purpose to be a motivational speaker and transformational coach to help women who have dealt with traumatic events to tap back into their dreams/purpose to show them that they still can be fulfilled despite what they have been through. I know that it is a process as I am still in corporate, but my goal is to be able to walk away from corporate in 3-5 years. It is a short term sacrifice for a long term gain!

  • Jose
    Posted at 09:06h, 22 August Reply

    Door#1

  • Elaine
    Posted at 21:31h, 23 August Reply

    Started opening Door #1 last October and have just walked through to the other side with much optimism (and a healthy dose of skepticism). Good luck everyone!

  • Tim
    Posted at 18:59h, 24 August Reply

    Door #1. I started my own side business a couple of years ago. The plan is to quit my job and go full time in the beginning of next year.
    Set your goals. Make your plans. Then work your plans. Things don’t always turn out right. But, each time your that much closer to the goal.

  • Mahesh
    Posted at 20:22h, 24 August Reply

    I am still in Door-2 right now and need to make that leap of faith

    #Door-1: is what I crave for.

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  • Shadow
    Posted at 07:27h, 25 August Reply

    door 1. already on that path. it is hard, but fighting for what i know i want to do with my life…. and then showing my family to make them understand why i want to do this as a lifestyle is awesome.
    hope its worth the risk. but i know the only thing im gonna regret is not asking out that person i find cute 😛

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  • Lauren (Age 15)
    Posted at 17:18h, 25 August Reply

    I choose Door #1. I am so glad I saw this. Thank you for encouraging me and other people to follow their dreams. I have always followed along with what people tell me to do and I mean that’s fine I guess but it’s not really what I want to do. I am only fifteen but I’m constantly worrying about what career I should try for or even just problems I have to deal with in high school. This has encouraged me to take the paths I want. I am good at art and everyone tells me that I should definitely do something involving art. But the problem is I really love singing and I kind of like art. I got into the art academy at my school which is hard to get into but it conflicts with the choir that is the hardest to get into that I also got into. I really really really love singing but I can’t be in any choir unless I quit the art academy. Everyone is telling me to go with art but I think I am going to choose choir. I know that being in the academy would help me get into college for art but I like choice #1 better. (: Thank you!

  • Jamie Sarner
    Posted at 02:02h, 26 August Reply

    You are absolutely right! I’ve chosen Door #1 couple years ago and I can tell you that it’s all worth it. Like you said, I went through hard times, especially when I started my own business, but after some time, the life will get better and you’ll start enjoying it. It’s true that this path is unpredictable but on the other hand, it’s a happier way of life, right?

  • Sara Bangerter
    Posted at 12:17h, 26 August Reply

    One year of being an employee with uninspiring work has convinced me that Door #1 is the only way to be Alive. I don’t cope well with unfulfillment. I don’t plan on ever developing that skill, either.

  • Richard Phinneas
    Posted at 15:41h, 26 August Reply

    Well I’ve been living in door number 2 most of my adult working life, until the economy took a turn for the worse, and it seems to be worldwide. This opened door number 1, but at this point I really had nothing left to lose. Hope is a fickle creature, and right now it’s all I have to go on, is the dream that can be my reality. Perseverance will get me through, and determination will close the distance.

  • Tim Damgaard Christensen
    Posted at 04:24h, 28 August Reply

    Door #1 has been visiting my dreams and employed my brain for more than a year – no reason to overthink it anymore – it is time to open door #1.

    Not sure how I can help people who are still thinking about which door to choose, and how I can help you not spend so much brainpower on it, that it almost drives you crazy (like it did for me). If there’s anything I can do, let me know – my story book is open!

  • Kelly
    Posted at 07:57h, 01 September Reply

    I love reading everyone’s replies and am wondering if anyone on here has had their own business and had a change of heart about it in terms of realising that they are not in the right field ? That is where I find myself and would love to hear from anyone else who might be dealing with this aswell. I currently own a successful dance school which I purchased from the owner who I was teaching for when she retired. Everyone including my husband thinks that I have the perfect job with long holidays etc. but I am so miserable, I know longer have any passion for the type of teaching I am doing or dance, though I still love guiding and advising people.

    Thank you for reading this and I look forward to hearing from anyone,

    Kelly

  • Annika Spalding
    Posted at 17:17h, 01 September Reply

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  • Jesus
    Posted at 18:58h, 08 September Reply

    Door 1. I want to work in a business called vemma but i have trouble sharing the opportunity. And i really want it to work out for the new people that join.

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  • Theresa
    Posted at 05:52h, 24 September Reply

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  • Jason
    Posted at 18:40h, 08 October Reply

    I was shown the other side of door #2 six months ago, and it shattered my self-confidence. Many months of floating and trying to reconstruct my ego later, I’m starting to get on track to pursue door #1. Fear of success has held me back for a looooooong time, though.

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    Posted at 03:34h, 18 May Reply

    I’m going in for door 1.
    I’m putting in my resignation tomorrow morning. My boss would be shocked as he just handed me my promotion letter a week ago. I got a back to back promition this year. The thing is, although I am able to deliver on the targets set by my company but honestly it has come at a huge price. Their is no inspiration, no values. Although I worked hard for all this to prove that I can come out with the best in any environment, but now i just get a false sense of achievement.

    Sid

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