27 Aug What’s Stopping You From Living Your Legend? It Might Not Really Be What You Think.
One of my favorite things about being the Chief Inspiration Officer of Live Your Legend is to learn from and help people one-on-one. That’s why I love attending the LYL Local Events, like the ones I have attended in London, Perth, Tasmania, Melbourne, Sydney, and the Gold Coast this year.
Scott loved how one post or video at Live Your Legend could be shared around and help an infinite number of people for an indefinite amount of time (as we have seen since his passing given his Tedx Talk is now at over 9 million views!!!), but I love the connection I feel when I am able to help individuals with their specific situation. Because, for me, it brings such a realness to what we are doing here at LYL. I absolutely love to hear where and how people are feeling stuck, lost, inspired, uninspired, etc.
Because as people have shared things with me, I have seen patterns repeat themselves over and over. It’s almost as if the very same roadblocks are just wrapped up in different packages – those that we call our own unique stories and situations. Often we believe our situation is ‘different’ because, well, it gives us a reason to stay where we are. It justifies our situation, and our resulting behavior to that situation.
This is all done with innocence, of course. As it is likely not happening at a conscious level, I don’t think any of us necessarily do this with ill will or laziness in mind. I mean we are hardwired to survive, and change instills fear because it welcomes new parameters that we are unaware of how to live with.
I saw this in myself with Scott’s passing. I told myself for a quite some time, that my situation was different. I was young. What we had was special. That it was different. And that has a truth to it – because every situation is unique, every relationship is unique, every loss and change has a uniqueness to it but the moment I let go of that ‘story’, I watched myself grow. I also watched myself gain a sense of self compassion which only created more compassion for others.
To put it simply, I realized that all of us are dealing with our own challenges. As humans, we tend to compare one greater than another, but we all have a threshold until we reach a new threshold, don’t we? At the end of the day we are all dealing with varying challenges in life, and when we have the courage to diminish them, rather than let them diminish us, we open up the space to develop a sense of curiosity rather than a defensiveness. It gives us room to let go of our story of why we can’t, and wonder if we can…. And when we do that we open up the room to take life’s challenges and navigate them to evolve, spiritually, mentally, physically, etc..
For centuries, people have proven that our external circumstances do not have to define us. That we all have it within us to rise above anything that is outside of us, because a speed bump may slow us down, but it doesn’t stop us in our tracks.
So, that being said, one thing I really enjoy is when I get emails from people about their situations, roadblocks and challenges. I equally love emails about the specific nuggets that have helped people! 🙂 I’ll share some of those too!
But I recently have answered some deep pleas for help, such as the one below…
I need help. I’m desperate. I’m sitting at my desk right now writing this, feeling like my insides are going to explode or I ‘m just going to break into sobbing hysteria. I love this whole Live Your Legend thing… [but]… everyday I have the same exact battle…trying to force myself to focus on my job and do well…do my best. But it bores me to a level that I can’t even describe and It truly feels like it’s sucking the soul out of me and killing me. I can look at my path to here and see how It’s gotten worse and worse. I’m completely burnt out. I feel hopeless.
I don’t know what to do.
If there is anything I know, it is that if one person in this global community feels this way, so do many others. And we have so many resources here at Live Your Legend that when directed and applied can help challenge the things that challenge us.
So that being said, we are considering creating a new email series where I’ll regularly respond to real reader emails. We’ll dip into the “‘ole mailbag” and I’ll share with you the common roadblocks I have seen stop people and the specific resources we have here at Live Your Legend to help you with your unique situation. Because the reality is, you aren’t alone. There are things that challenge all of us. But we all have the power to decide whether or not those challenges are going to inspire or stop us.
Tune in next week to see how I responded to this email in particular and, of course, feel free to email us at firstname.lastname@example.org with your unique challenges. The LYL team wants nothing more for you to find the things that make you feel alive and figure out a way to spend more time doing them so that you can share your unique gifts with the world. That’s what we are all about here.
Finding a way to live our best lives, in order to spread those gifts with the world around us.
See you next week!
– Chelsea Dinsmore
P.S. In September we’ll be launching our flagship course, How to Connect With Anyone. It’s all about improving your Average 5. This course and community are a crazy deep dive into improving your interpersonal skills, which really can carry you wherever you want to go in life. We’ve found the people who have the most success are the ones who take it several times whenever they need a tune up. We encourage that kind of commitment to change by offering the course as a lifetime membership.
The price is currently $397, but it will be going up to $497 at 11:59 PST on August 31st. Unfortunately, due to high demand, we won’t be able to make any exceptions on that timing. Are you ready to change your life for the better?